Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you respond to it.
When someone told me this, everything seemed to click into place!!!!
For years I would blame situations or people for certain things that had happened in my life and would never take full responsibility for it myself. Why should I, it wasn’t my fault that I got made redundant, or that someone was rude to me at work and put me in a foul mood. It wasn’t my fault I got into an argument with someone for saying something wrong and it wasn’t my fault for feeling flat and unmotivated as my work isn’t going the way I want it to.
Right???!!!!!!!
Wrong! Having worked as a Mindset Coach for a number of years now I have seen the importance of taking ownership on your actions and the impact that this has on your overall happiness and success. When I start to work with many of my clients I will often hear how things aren’t going their way, they can’t get the promotion they want, or how they are struggling to achieve their goals because of this, that and the other, and although these factors play a part the main reason they are not where they want to be in life right now is down to them.
What, thats not fair!!!!
We can not control what happens in life and I fully understand that, in fact sometimes we can be dealt a real blow and it can knock the stuffing out of you BUT what I am saying is that you CAN control how you RESPOND to the situation and THAT is the part that makes the difference.
If someone says something that we don’t agree with or upsets us we are faced with two choices, We can:
Let their comment upset, piss us off and define our day and cause us to get wound up, OR, we can
Let it go!!! It probably wasn’t meant in that way, or if it was it was coming from someone who clearly has a lot going on right now, so choose to let it go and not let it bother you.
Same as if you have just found out you didn’t get the client you wanted or the promotion you went for, you can:
Let it affect you and hold you back from trying to get other work, OR, you can
Learn from the lessons and know that something better will come along.
It really is that simple.
Take ownership of your choices, your responses and your actions and see how different you feel.
Remember with everything in life we always have choices and options. We can’t account for how others will act, but what we can do is make sure we respond in a way that is right for us, that helps us to feel good, to stay focused and to achieve the things with want in life.
Choose to see things in a positive way, learn from mistakes, stay true to you.
Love as Always
Emma xx
