Last week I did something I never thought I would do- I shared my story with the world and let people see me at my most vulnerable, talking about things not even my close friends knew about.
WHY?
Because I am so passionate about making a difference and finally felt ready to step into my true purpose and to follow my passions in helping others transform their mind from fear to freedom, to let go and forgive and to create a life they truly want and deserve.
One of my aims in life is to break down the stigma that surrounds Trauma and to help people feel less alone. To be that voice to let them know its ok and you don’t have to feel ashamed.
Trauma impacts on us all differently and it can vary with everyone. Following on from last week I really want to talk more about what trauma is as I feel it is misunderstood and as a result comes with a lot of confusion.
When people think about trauma or talk about trauma they often think of things like abuse, illness, accidents etc. but the truth is trauma is anything that impacts you on a deep emotional level that can cause you anxiety, stress, hurt and pain. Trauma is a life defining event.
During my video I spoke about the impact that trauma has had on my life as a result of sexual and physical abuse but also as a result of miscarriage and redundancy. I did this to share with you all that there are so many different forms of trauma, but that they can affect us in similar ways.
Suffering sexual and physical abuse, miscarriage and redundancy may seem like worlds apart to some people but the truth is they all affected me in a deep emotional way. Yes the emotions varied but they still carried hurt, guilt, anger and upset.
Trauma is no one set thing. It is different for everyone.
Trauma is an experience that:
- Knocks you
- Affects how you feel
- Leaves your feeling confused
- Hurts you
- Makes you Angry
- Makes your feel scared
- Imprisons your mind
- Impacts on your thoughts
- Affects your confidence, self belief and self worth
- Holds you back
- Changes how you view things
- Changes how you feel about yourself/ people/ loved ones
Types of Trauma and life defining events are:
- Abuse – sexual, physical, verbal
- Bullying
- Trying to conceive – Naturally or IVF
- Miscarriage or stillborn
- Death of a loved one
- Redundancy
- Childbirth
- An accident
- Having no control over the outcome of something
- Something that frightens you
- Getting divorced
- Getting married
- Eating disorders
- Illness – you or loved one
- Starting a new business
- Bankruptcy
- Flying/Travelling
It is the impact these experiences have on our minds and our lives that make it traumatic.
Understanding more about trauma and what you can do you overcome it is key to making the changes your need to make.
Lets start to breakdown this wall and to push past the confusion. Lets make a difference.
Love as Always
Emma xx