I have been coaching for a number of years now and during that time have had the privilege to work with some amazing people, helping them to put plans in place and create the life they want.
During this last year I combined my qualifications (certified NLP, Life Coach and Hypnotherapist) and my personal experience to really focus on working with people who have suffered or are suffering from Trauma.
Trauma is a deeply disturbing and distressing experience that affects you on a deep emotional level. It can completely knock the stuffing out of you and leave you feeling very confused, lost, vulnerable, angry and hurt.
Having suffered from multiple traumas I know what it is like to deal with the aftermath of something you don’t understand and struggle to come to terms with. For many years I felt alone, lost, guilty, dirty and confused. I didn’t know whom I was or whom I should be, as a result of everything that happened.
My life transformed when I discovered Coaching and it lead me to train and help others do the same.
Using my own personal experience I want to share with you the difference between coaching and counseling and help you to understand where they both fit in to your life.
When I first decided to seek help I went and saw a counselor on the advice of my parents and GP. It took me a while to open up and relax (especially as he was a man and at the time I hated men!!) but eventually I managed to get results.
We spent time talking about what had happened to me and worked through the emotions I felt as a result. They helped me to understand the new behavioral patterns I had formed as a result and really allowed me to see things clearly.
Counseling for me was a kick off point and introduced me to the idea of seeking help and getting support. As someone who doesn’t like to talk I struggled with it to start off with but really felt the benefit of being able to talk openly to someone who wasn’t part of my life and wouldn’t judge me for how I was feeling.
I cried, screamed, shouted and really let loose.
It helped me to finally face up to what had happened and to know it wasn’t my fault.
My life changed after counseling and I felt calmer and less angry but I still felt lost. I didn’t know what to do with my life and how to move beyond my past.
This is where the coaching kicked in.
Counseling dealt with my past, it helped me to understand, gain clarity and accept what happened to me BUT I needed more.
I needed to move FORWARD.
When I set up my coaching business and spent months training for my qualifications I saw first hand the benefits of working with a coach had on someone like me.
I threw myself into every technique, and volunteered to be the ‘client’ during all our practical assessments.
Bit by bit, everything started to make more sense and I finally had the tools I needed to move forward, make plans and believe that I could achieve anything I wanted to.
Coaching provided me with direction, action plans, support and guidance to help me to make decisions based on what I wanted for my life instead of what I felt I should do, due to me past. The techniques helped me to fully let go, to forgive my past and those in it, to trust in myself and to step out of my comfort zone.
Counseling deals with your past and Coaching deals with your future.
I wouldn’t be where I am today without the help of either of them and for that I cant speak highly enough about them both.
Working with me as your coach helps you to open up to possibilities, new ideas and to start to believe in yourself again. We get to work on creating a can do attitude and a positive mindset which not only allows you to trust and believe in yourself but also to follow your heart and passions and not be afraid to step out of the shadows and into a life that your deserve.
Please Note – Everything I have shared with you today is based on my experience. If you feel that you would benefit from counseling or want to know more please contact your GP.
Love as Always
Emma xx
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